All my personal essays sorted and tag-lined in anticipation of the day this blog grows too big for anyone to find anything.
Queer lit: a most binary pandemonium: I want bi and pansexual protagonists, please – as a non-binary person who wants to feel included in a character’s sexual orientation.
The many skins of writing escapism: my writing is a political statement, yes, but it’s also a way to escape the world as it is. That shouldn’t diminish me or my art.
Three simple words: I’m an author: I’m a writer, but I struggle to say that I’m an author, and this is why it’s problematic.
Queering words: a field guide (part 2): why queer words are adjectives, not nouns, and what that means for how allies should use them.
Ropes, waves and other useful neurotransmitters: the words of depression: here I discuss depression, suicide and society (and why I’m suicidal because I want to live).
Queering words: a field guide (part 1): my two rules for queer language use by allies.
Do explain, my allies, but not to me: why explaining something to a minority, as an ally, isn’t support – and why empathy matters so much more when it comes to activism.
The oppression of matching: why my name does not, in fact, need to match my gender (and why the idea of anything ‘matching’ needs to die a much-needed death).
Self-publishing (as a beginning author): J. P Kyle posts lots of lovely links on self-publishing, and I leave enough essay-length comments on her post that a reblog is necessary.
The ghost of a girl: The ability to be one’s self is vital. The lack of this is something I regret.
The worlds unseen: depression: It’s not easy to see depression (and mental illness in general) in one’s self or others. I think representation in the media can help with that.
Show, don’t tell: allies and minorities in fiction: Why allies need to think before they promote their inclusiveness, amidst reflections on queer genre fiction and my place in it as a queer writer and reader.
Call to arms, my dear creatives: Why you need to write whatever it is that moves you.
That thing we don’t talk about: sex: Why characters, in our fiction, need to spend more time talking about sex.
Walk the talk: you’re not alone: I hope this is the definitive essay on why creatives (and people) need to be honest about the light and the dark of creativity (and life).
Nothing happening here but an awkward confession: The shortest post I’ll ever write on why self-promotion terrifies me. Plus self-promotion.
The personal and the sensitive: My thoughts on sensitive subjects, being personal, and their roles in creativity.
Reflections on acknowledgement and gratitude: I tell you in many words that I’m grateful for the works of other creatives.
The demon at the crossroads: I completed a manuscript and I’m scared about the process of making it a book. I also reflect on suicide and heroism (again).
Words matter but what about the packaging: Why, O VU students, you should consider the liberation found in the publication production subjects of Desktop Publishing and Publishing Studio.
Silence please: Allies, we should consider silence, as a form of respectful listening, when minority people speak.
The price of being out: emotional authenticity and storytelling: The upsides and downsides of being out and real as a queer and a writer (and why vulnerability matters).
Rotunda in the West and other adventures in story: I promote my Hannie Rayson in the Highlands piece and talk about the awesomeness of Bruno Lettieri, Rotunda and Platform.
How much do we value our words, anyway: The first of doubtlessly many posts on the undervaluation of art and creativity, and what that means for my creative and publishing process.
Life in the world of monsters: What it means to grow up in an oppressive environment and then step out into the world (and why it’s not so easy for us to live in the world when we do). This is one of my absolute favourite posts.
Humanity: a tale of hats beyond counting: The importance of intersectional representation in hero narratives.
Not Vogler: the nature of a hero: A long-arse essay on heroism, storytelling and representation. This is why hero narratives matter.
Reprise: mate, you’re stepping on my foot / the words the world gives: Like it says on the box. These two essays expanded.
Mate, you’re stepping on my foot: The nature of privilege means we step on other people’s feet every day of our lives. This is why we need to be open to that truth.
Body love, the chronic pain version: I was never taught to love and honour my own body, and as a chronic pain sufferer, this is truly important.
The occupation of struggle: what it really means, as a mental illness sufferer, to do just about anything (in this case, be referred to employment).
Yes, I signed up for this: More on the reality of the writing production life.
The imperfections of realness: Being an adult is pretty damn hard. This might be why few people accomplish it.
The words the world gives: How do we know to give representation to the unrepresented when all our references and touchstones don’t include them?
Showing the bones: Why I write about the raw, the ugly and the real-to-me – and why I can’t do anything else.
Platform and other worthwhile objects: Mutterings on the reality of the writing production life.
Activism is not a requirement: Why marching with picket signs is not a requirement of any queer with an opinion on civil rights. (Also, writing is a profound and powerful form of activism.)
A job is never just a job: It is okay, in fact, to stand up and declare one’s self a professional.
What’s in a name? Empowerment: Why choosing a name, especially for non-binary/trans people, really matters.
This is homophobia: The kind of homophobia that goes so often unexamined by cishets and why it bothers me.
On why I ‘queer’, no person to follow: First post, about me and my queerness, why I use the word ‘queer’ in the way I do.